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A Mother's Day

"Nature on this Planet nourishes us as our Mother. We have one Mother and we must respect, value and grow our unique relationship with her, especially when she depends on us for care. Happy Mother's Day to all Mothers, past, present and future! And to Mama Earth too!" - Forrest Kolb

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I Believe in Love.

Nana is turning 100 in May and still taking one day at a time!

Tala Michelle

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The Science of a Happy Marriage

By Tara Parker-Pope

Why do some men and women cheat on their partners while others resist the temptation?

To find the answer, a growing body of research is focusing on the science of commitment. Scientists are studying everything from the biological factors that seem to influence marital stability to a person’s psychological response after flirting with a stranger.

Their findings suggest that while some people may be naturally more resistant to temptation, men and women can also train themselves to protect their relationships and raise their feelings of commitment.

Recent studies have raised questions about whether genetic factors may influence commitment and marital stability. Hasse Walum, a biologist at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden, studied 552 sets of twins to learn more about a gene related to the body’s regulation of the brain chemical vasopressin, a bonding hormone.

Over all, men who carried a variation in the gene were less likely to be married, and those who had wed were more likely to have had serious marital problems and unhappy wives. Among men who carried two copies of the gene variant, about a third had experienced a serious relationship crisis in the past year, double the number seen in the men who did not carry the variant.

Although the trait is often called the “fidelity gene,” Mr. Walum called that a misnomer: his research focused on marital stability, not faithfulness. “It’s difficult to use this information to predict any future behavior in men,” he told me. Now he and his colleagues are working to replicate the findings and conducting similar research in women.

While there may be genetic differences that influence commitment, other studies suggest that the brain can be trained to resist temptation.

A series of unusual studies led by John Lydon, a psychologist at McGill University in Montreal, have looked at how people in a committed relationship react in the face of temptation. In one study, highly committed married men and women were asked to rate the attractiveness of people of the opposite sex in a series of photos. Not surprisingly, they gave the highest ratings to people who would typically be viewed as attractive.

Later, they were shown similar pictures and told that the person was interested in meeting them. In that situation, participants consistently gave those pictures lower scores than they had the first time around.

When they were attracted to someone who might threaten the relationship, they seemed to instinctively tell themselves, “He’s not so great.” “The more committed you are,” Dr. Lydon said, “the less attractive you find other people who threaten your relationship.”

But some of the McGill research has shown gender differences in how we respond to a cheating threat. In a study of 300 heterosexual men and women, half the participants were primed for cheating by imagining a flirtatious conversation with someone they found attractive. The other half just imagined a routine encounter.

Afterward, the study subjects were asked to complete fill-in-the-blank puzzles like LO_AL and THR__T.

Unbeknownst to the participants, the word fragments were a psychological test to reveal subconscious feelings about commitment. (Similar word puzzles are used to study subconscious feelings about prejudice and stereotyping.)

No pattern emerged among the study participants who imagined a routine encounter. But there were differences among men and women who had entertained the flirtatious fantasy. In that group, the men were more likely to complete the puzzles with the neutral words LOCAL and THROAT. But the women who had imagined flirting were far more likely to choose LOYAL and THREAT, suggesting that the exercise had touched off subconscious concerns about commitment.

Of course, this does not necessarily predict behavior in the real world. But the pronounced difference in responses led the researchers to think women might have developed a kind of early warning system to alert them to relationship threats.

Other McGill studies confirmed differences in how men and women react to such threats. In one, attractive actors or actresses were brought in to flirt with study participants in a waiting room. Later, the participants were asked questions about their relationships, particularly how they would respond to a partner’s bad behavior, like being late and forgetting to call.

Men who had just been flirting were less forgiving of the hypothetical bad behavior, suggesting that the attractive actress had momentarily chipped away at their commitment. But women who had been flirting were more likely to be forgiving and to make excuses for the man, suggesting that their earlier flirting had triggered a protective response when discussing their relationship.

“We think the men in these studies may have had commitment, but the women had the contingency plan — the attractive alternative sets off the alarm bell,” Dr. Lydon said. “Women implicitly code that as a threat. Men don’t.” Continue Reading at NyTimes.com

Tara Parker-Pope’s new book is “For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage.”

A Mother's Love

Is the purest example of the One Love which makes up and flows through everything in universe, both seen and unseen. Let us be so grateful not only for all mothers in this world and the next, but all women, the chosen mothers to deliver the unfolding of humanity.

Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. - Mother Theresa  

Jake Gyllenhaal on His Parents' Divorce, Heath Ledger's Death

Source: LA Times - With the fast-approaching release of "Prince of Persia: The Sands of Time," Jake Gyllenhaal could be in for a whole new level of fame, and a lucrative franchise.

Covering this month's GQ magazine, however, Jake seems more appreciative of his work and personal life, reflecting on the recent split of his parents and the death of his "Brokeback Mountain" costar Heath Ledger.

"I think it takes a lot of courage for my parents to make the decision that they made," said Gyllenhaal, whose folks ended a 32-year marriage in December (they're also mom and dad to Jake's actress sister, Maggie Gyllenhaal).

It seems the actor has gained a lot of perspective since Ledger's January 2008 passing.

“Even when we did 'Brokeback' and stuff, it was like my work was the only thing that mattered to me. It was like I could only understand or define myself through doing that ... but after that happened … I think I recognized that it was work. And I recognized that this is for real," Gyllenhaal said.

More so, Jake appreciated Ledger's authenticity in everyday life.

"I think he was just really sensitive. We often used to do a lot of things together, because people were very interested in him and I think we felt safe together.”

"Winnie" is Expecting Her First Child

Source: OMG! - Winnie's preggers! The Wonder Years star and math guru Danica McKellar is pregnant, according to People.

Wonder Years' Danica McKellar says "I do"

"I'm nearing the end of my first trimester and I'm so excited I've been bursting to tell people," McKellar told the magazine.

The 35-year-old former child star said she tried to put off the pregnancy test because she didn't want any distractions while she was in the middle of "a really intense deadline" for her new book, Hot X: Algebra Exposed, which hits shelves in August.

That only lasted a day I couldn't stop thinking about it and I caved! You can't try to put that off," she said.

The baby, due in the fall, is the first child for McKellar and Mike Verta, her husband of one year.